Psychologists often wonder why people who were so in love with each other at the beginning of marriage are in love at the end. What happened? Did they grow apart? Often, the divorce relates to a lack of agreement on priorities between husband and wife and, more often than not, low interest in family. When hurt feelings worsen, resentment and anger build, and relationships are ultimately torn apart. In most instances, regardless of who started it, both mates contributed to the problem.
If the marriage is to be salvaged,
finding a marriage and family therapist in Los Feliz
or family therapist/psychologist is an essential first step. A marriage
therapist or family therapist can help determine and break the cycle of
resentment and anger and point out ways to reinstall communication and trust.
All that being said, the most vital
thing to recognize is that love is a choice. We decide whom we love and whom we
don't love. We may make the decision unconsciously and sometimes for the wrong
reasons, but we control the choice. If you are thinking of divorce as an
option, think about this. You must decide whether you are still committed to
this relationship or if you've already moved on. If you both choose to make it
work, it will indeed work. If even one of you chooses to make this marriage
last, it might still work. If neither of you is aiming to choose to persuade,
then it's a sure bet your marriage won't last. A family therapist in Los Feliz
can assist you in better ways to balance relations.